Instead, he wants these three things from you...

How much time do you spend attempting to be the kind of woman you believe men desire?

Getting ready takes a LOT of time if you're like most women. You spend so much time trying to make yourself look sexy s and desirable.

All the while portraying yourself as entertaining, engaging, cosmopolitan, and not in the least needy. You've spent all this time demonstrating how perfect you'd be for him... How wonderful his future would be if he picked you as his partner...

It does not work. It is never successful.

WHY? Why do you put forth so much effort...

And the person in your life, if he acknowledges you at all, simply takes you for granted. Isn't it because he's immature? He doesn't notice a nice thing until it's gone.

Or maybe... It's because you've been doing all of his jobs.

Fact: The things that men appreciate the most are those that they have to work hard for.

If you hand a guy a college diploma, he will not appreciate it as much as if he had to put in years of study and work to get it.

If you give a guy the ideal girlfriend, he will not appreciate her as much as if he had to court her for weeks just to convince her to go out with him.

But, as you've surely observed...

There is a major issue with playing hard to get. When he has you, that method no longer works.

When males decide they've won you, something strange occurs. It's almost as though they're thinking, "Game over." Their thoughts had already turned to the next obstacle. What the heck is going on?!

And how can you prevent it from destroying your relationship?

Many women give up on finding love. They never got too near to a guy for fear of frightening him away. Other ladies, though, take a different approach. They get assistance. One of the experts they consult is my friend the relationship counselor James Bauer.

He observed that many of his customers were talking about men who were blowing hot and cold. Everything would be going smoothly until...

Something would change in an instant.

A man who had been kind, loving, and interested would suddenly turn cold. He wouldn't have time for her anymore. He refused to smile in greeting. He'd lose his eye contact. His kisses were harsh. James researched this behavior, in order to assist his clients.

And what he learned explained everything. He understood why these folks were fleeing. He was aware of what they needed... and what they were not receiving.

There wasn't anything wrong with these ladies.

It ultimately boiled down to what he coined "The Hero Instinct."

One of the most lovely aspects of women is their innate loving nature.

Take a look at yourself. You're constantly available to your man. You take care of him. You are constantly accommodating to him. You'd go to any length for him.

You never recognize it throughout the process...

You're really depriving him of something. You're robbing him of his purpose.

He wants to be your hero, you see. He does not want YOU to be the hero.

Men admire heroes. Consider how many mature guys are still enthralled by Marvel comics and superhero films.

Every guy on the planet has fantasized since he was a child about being the type of hero who would rescue the world while also getting the lady.

Most men's 9-5 occupations do not allow them to express their hero side.

The circumstances do not need them to sever their business connections and rush into action, displaying their superman side. Maybe they won't be able to preserve the world. They can, however, still acquire the girl.

Getting the woman is a worthwhile task for an average man with a superhero's heart. It demands incredible confidence. The charm, that is out of this world. Superhuman pain resistance. All he has to find now is...

A girl in need of a hero. 

Do You Require a Hero? Let me make a guess... That isn't you.

You're a fighter. You're self-sufficient. You can repair a  dripping faucet. You are capable of driving a stick shift. You are capable of looking out for yourself. You'll never make the Jerry Maguire error of seeking for a guy to complete you.

You have a lot to offer a guy. You're really kind. Kind and loving. Giving to a fault. All you want is to meet a guy who is open to receiving all you have to offer.

That's why heroes don't appear in your life. That's why you've had so many takers instead. Guys who take all you have and then abandon you. You should advertise for a hero if you want one. This is how:

Inquire with him about purchasing a new computer. Request that he listens to the strange rattling sound that has begun in your automobile. Ask that he reaches for something on the top shelf. Then, with a wide grin of gratitude, thank him cordially. That does not make you dependent. It transforms you into a woman who has room in her life for a guy.

Guys like women who admire guys just for being men. So what if his home is a sports shrine? So what if he spends hours on end putting together his fantasy football team? So what if his definition of clean is the one with the fewest wrinkles? He's a man. It's fine. You don't need him to be more like you since you've already addressed the feminine half of the gender equation.

Superheroes like a good challenge. They don't want to be rewarded with a gold medal just for turning up. They don't want your affection served to them on a silver platter. They want to work for it. A challenge is something guys seek even more than a woman's everlasting unending love. So give him a chance to prove himself. You are not required to perform the task of persuading him. Allow him the pleasure of earning your adoration by sitting back and relaxing.

If that sounds like fun, click here to watch a video presentation about this relationship improvement tool. It is something that you can learn once and apply for the rest of your life.