Many of us, if given a crystal ball, would gaze into the future of the last days of a love affair and decide to not even start the relationship.

There's no use in falling in love if it's going to end in disaster. Or is there one?

Breakups are, of course, undesirable. However, divorce is far more painful.

You may feel melancholy, anxiety, sleeplessness, skin flare-ups, aches and pains, dramatic weight loss or increase, or disease after a relationship ends.

According to one doctor, those who had just broken up had a higher incidence of heart attacks.

Breaking up with someone may physically shatter your heart.

Is it true that the only relationships worth having are those that endure forever?

Ty Tashiro and Patricia Frazier from the University of Minnesota argue that we have ignored the possibilities of attaining "advantageous life transformations after relationship breakups."

In a 2003 study of heartbroken students, researchers discovered evidence that breakups boosted personal development, especially in women.

You ended your relationship with someone you genuinely loved.

You launched a drive to become a "new you," determined to show that he made a tremendous mistake by letting you go.

You began a fitness routine, purchased new clothing, and crammed your schedule with social engagements.

Even if thoughts of your ex haunted you at times, you forced yourself to focus on the future and your great life ahead.

It's very conceivable that the new life you've built for yourself is superior to the old one in every aspect.

That is, the split was not a negative thing, but rather a positive one.

Breaking up with someone may improve your life.

It's easy to overlook that not all relationships have a favorable influence on your life. The breakups=bad and relationships=good equation might not always be that true.

Even though you adore someone and value his presence in your life, he may not be the best influence.

Having a companion who spends his free time eating pizza, drinking beer, and watching television might have an influence on your health if you choose to participate in such activities.

A companion who is often angry or unpleasant might add to your stress.

If he believes your job aspirations are foolish or unattainable, or that going back to school is a waste of money, you may put your plans on hold.

It's difficult to recognize how your partner's decision affects your life until the relationship ends and you're free again.

As frightening as being alone might be, being alone allows you to rediscover who you are.

Part of the trick to getting over a breakup is rediscovering yourself.

You can eat anything you want, listen to whatever music you want, and watch whatever you want on television, even if no one else does.

You may use your leisure time any way you like. You are not required to change your schedule for anybody.

It's no surprise that Tashiro and Frazier discovered that women develop so much following a breakup.

Relationships, no matter how lovely they feel, may be restrictive. Finding oneself single again may be a liberating experience.

Breakups in the end may not be the devil that everyone portrays them to be.

You may even argue that it's worthwhile to enter a relationship that doesn't continue because of the self-awareness you'll receive.

Would you still say yes to those failed relationships if you had that crystal ball?

Can you think of any advantages you gained from the breakup that you would not have gotten any other way?

Breakups do not always destroy your life. But for sure breakups change your life forever.

So, if you've found yourself alone again, take advantage of the opportunity to learn all you can about yourself, your preferences, and the kind of relationship you want next.

By the way, falling in love with someone fresh is one of the finest methods to get over a breakup.

In my view, the cure for a shattered heart is a relationship that makes your heart sing.

To assist you, I'd like to reveal a little secret that I got from James Bauer.

As a dating and relationship counselor, James Bauer has put this one basic principle to the test with hundreds of women who wanted to regain their ex-boyfriend's love or form a connection with someone new.

James Bauer has made a short video to explain what he found out and why it may help women get the relationship they seek.

Here's the link to the video, which has the potential to transform your luck with men for good.